Which One Will You Feed Statues
Virtual Clubhouse Hangout #3: "The One You Feed"
This last clubhouse hangout was based on an old Native American parable, known as "The One You Feed." If you haven't heard of it before, It's a powerful story that can help guide you to live a better life. Here it is -
A grandfather is talking with his grandson.
The grandfather says, "In life, there are two wolves inside of us which are always at battle.
One is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery, and love.
The other is a bad wolf which represents things like greed, hatred, and fear".
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, "Grandfather, which one wins?"
The grandfather replies, "The one you feed."
I've loved this parable since the first time I learned about it, and was extremely excited to hear the community talk openly about what this means to them, share personal stories and struggles when the bad wolf gets fed more, and how can we as individuals and collectively, feed our "good wolfs"
One of the early thoughts that came up in the discussion was, it's much, much easier to feed the bad wolf. And one of my own personal reflections was, what does my good wolf even eat? After defining that, I realized that I have to put in some work to feed it. If I don't do the work, my bad wolf naturally will be fed.
These were defined as unconscious feedings. When you don't clean, binge alcohol, sit and watch Netflix instead of working on something, don't practice good hygiene.. Ect. These types of activities can unconsciously feed the bad wolf.
Something that everyone became aware of during this pandemic, is we rely on other people and the personal interactions every day to feed our good wolf. And now that we are quarantined, that food source was taken away.
So if that's one of your main food sources for the good wolf, how are you going to feed it?
Well, that's where you have to figure out your own personal "Good Button." This was a strategy one of the attendees, Jason Imp, shared with the group. It was a go-to thing that anytime he does it, the good wolf eats. It's something as simple as putting an actual button on the wall, titled good button, and hitting it whenever he needs to feel a sense of joy and laughter. I have mine on a post-it note right next to my desk now. Rule is, you have to make a funny noise when you "boop" it. It's easy and simple and as hilarious as it sounds, it works.
Next, is to make sure your good wolf eats first thing in the morning. This is SO important. This will give you better control of the day, and set your good wolf up for a fighting chance to overcome the bad side. You need to understand that your results emotionally are based on your choices and actions. That's why it's so important that your choice and actions in the morning reflect the results you are looking for. If you're turning on the news or scrolling through your email and phone first thing in the morning, you're basically telling your good wolf to Fck Off and it's not as important.
Beyond the morning, make sure you are also scheduling in good wolf meals throughout the day. Take breaks between the grind to let it eat. Take a few minutes to give your good button a press.
Last tip that I have is to feed your good wolf by feeding others. Again, we are social beings, and we need each other to nourish our good wolves. That goes both ways. Be careful with your words, because you can often feed their bad wolves without even knowing it.
After this discussion and I have had time to reflect on it, I will tell you this. This virtual clubhouse community has been a complete good wolf buffet for me. Which I completely love and am so thankful for.
That being said, please join us, share the word, and schedule in a good wolf feeding session every Wednesday @ 12:00pm CST
Much Love,
Zech
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